“I want my guy to fight for me.” So said one young lady after a breakup with a guy she really liked. Honestly, I did not know what that meant. As a man when I hear, “Fight for me,” I want to know what I am fighting, how I will know if I win, and what the reward for winning will be. Any of you other men feel the same confusion?
“You don’t understand,” she said. She was right. I didn’t. I was a little comforted to know that my wife didn’t understand either.
Two hours and a thousand tears later, I began to grasp what she meant. It was all about fears. She felt that the guy used his fears as an excuse for not pursuing her.
Picture it like this: Fears are like the bars of a cage. Many guys, or many I know anyway, have some fears about the future and their ability to care for a wife. But they want the joy of a companion more than they want to live in their little jail. So they take steps to break out of their fears. Many will discover that the bars of their cages were not real. Once they stepped out they could step through.
In other words, desire became stronger than fear. We never make any progress until that happens. Desire must become stronger than fear.
I remember one couple who came to see us several years ago. The girl said, “I want him to make up his mind. I love him, but he keeps sending mixed signals.”
I asked the guy what made him act that way. “I’m scared,” he said. Actually he put another word after scared,but I cannot use it here. But he decided to step out of his fears, and the young lady he loved was willing to make that journey with him. They are happily married today.
Whatever you’re facing, fight your fears. Pursue your dreams. You may struggle, but you will find fulfillment.